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Risky Sex Locales

Presenting 5 Risky Locations to Get It On... Plus Some Safer Alternatives

August 8, 2025

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Everyone’s into different stuff when it comes to sex, but it’s true that lots of people like sex that’s a little bit naughty.

Whether that’s because they’re indulging in exciting kinks or alchemizing the thrill that sometimes comes from sexual shame, sex that has a little dash of wrong to it can be extra hot for many people.

Which is one reason so many people enjoy the idea of sex in situations where you might just get caught.

Whether that’s sex in public or just sex at home when there are other people around, sex that carries the feeling of the illicit because you might be discovered can be a huge turn-on for many people.

And while it might seem dramatic and unnecessarily dangerous to others, it’s certainly a lot less so than other types of boundary-pushing sex like cheating, having sex with someone you shouldn’t, or engaging in various extreme kinks that put participants in potential danger.

In any case, whether you’re seeing someone new and you can’t keep your hands off each other, or you and a partner have been together for so long that you’re looking to spice things up, here are five classic places where it’s a little risky to get frisky — plus safer alternatives.

Editor’s Note: AskMen does not advise or condone illegal activities. There can be real and severe legal consequences for getting caught engaging in sexual activities in public places. Knowing the laws around public indecency where you live is important. And we’re providing safer alternatives that may allow you to experience some of the thrill of risky sex without genuinely running the risk of getting into trouble.

1. Parents' Place

Having sneaky sex at either of your parents’ places is a time-honored classic. The danger of getting caught — not by a stranger, but by a relative — can be enough to deter many, and yet every day, somewhere in the world, someone’s getting it on sneaky-style while the in-laws are a room or two away.

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How to Do It: Waiting until the old folks are asleep seems like a sensible bet, but it’s also, well, a little boring. If you really want to get each other’s hearts pumping, you’ll have to try it while they’re awake — in the bathroom/laundry room/garage/spare bedroom (in short, any spare room will do.)

How surreptitious you are is up to you and will depend on how likely you think you are to face actual consequences if you’re caught (or simply suspected). As you may know, people who’ve just had sex often, well, smell of it.

Safer Alternative: Want to get it on in a private residence without offending the potentially conservative sensibilities of someone who could have a major influence on your relationship? Try another iconic option and hook up in a bedroom during a house party.

2. The Library

If you’re young and have access to a college library, this one is dynamite. The covers won’t be the only thing that’s hard if you’re entertaining thoughts of getting it on amidst the stacks in a hallowed temple devoted to literature, knowledge and the sacred art of being quiet.

Libraries are almost as holy as churches, with all the deep thinking and acquisition of knowledge that goes on there. A quickie in the sex education section could work, but you’ll need to be sneaky — and really, really quiet.

How to Do It: Each library is laid out differently, but they typically have common features — lots of space, people who are focused on their own selves and not looking around at others, and massive bookshelves to hide behind.

Plus, most of them have little corners, nooks and crannies an enterprising couple could stake a claim to. But you’ll want to make it quick! The longer things go on, the more likely you are to get caught — and video surveillance these days makes being IDed much more likely. In fact, if you don’t want to get expelled, going all out here is probably a bad move.

Safer Alternative: Who needs to go all the way? Instead of actually having sex in a library, if either or both of you live on campus, you can simply use it as a space for some hot foreplay.

You can get up to naughty stuff in lots of ways beforehand, whether you’re touching each other surreptitiously under a table, passing sexy notes or even sharing racy passages with each other from bodice-ripping romance novels. The pressure to keep quiet and unnoticed simultaneously can make this a slow-burn sexy tease session for the ages.

3. The Sauna

Sauna sex has been going on since the dawn of saunas, resulting in many fainting episodes, lots of sweat and possibly a couple of heart attacks. The most obvious benefit of sex in a sauna is the lack of oxygen, which creates a heightened sensitivity. The heat also increases blood flow around the body, which also heightens the feeling in your extremities.

The downsides are that everything is insanely hot — and not in the good, sexy way.

How to Do It: Sitting is probably going to be the easiest position for your lovemaking. Given the heat, standing up can cause dizziness or fainting and should be avoided. Being horizontal could become uncomfortable and is a riskier option. The benches in saunas are normally multi-tiered and provide a couple of positioning options. The safest position: Both of you face the door, one of you sitting in the other’s lap, with a towel covering your crotches.

Safer Alternative: Want to have hot sex when you’re feeling hot as hell? Hot tubs are typically much easier to come by than saunas; there’s a good chance one of you has access to one already, and if not, lots of chalets and cottages you can rent for a weekend getaway will have one. Of course, hot tub sex comes with its own concerns, but you’re much less likely to get barred for life from your favorite spa.

4. In an Alley

Alleys are the least public parts of public life — they’re technically open to the public, but most often they’re completely empty. Depending on neighborhood and time of day, a kinky couple might be able to have a good 10-minute romp in one without encountering a single passerby. The tricky part is, you can never be 100% confident that you’ll be left undisturbed…

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How to Do It: The smartest move (besides a skirt plus commando combo for easy access, and wearing running shoes for a quick getaway) is to hide behind a large object in the alley. Think parked cars, big bins or other urban features. Standing against the wall is probably your best bet. Night is probably better than the day because shadows also provide some cover both from prying eyes and prying security cameras.

Safer Alternative: Want to have a hot quickie against a wall? Nothing’s stopping you from doing it inside. A hallway in your home right after one of you gets back from work, perhaps? (Of course, you agreed to this beforehand — don’t spring it on your partner.)

5. In the Office

Having sex at work is highly unprofessional and could get you fired should you get caught — unless, of course, you’re the boss. Whatever your rank, getting some at work — whether in a supply closet or in a corner office — has a lot of erotic cachet for many people.

How to Do It: Because people’s work environments are so varied, it’s hard to offer particular advice here, other than to have a good idea what company policy is for this kind of thing, and whether there are places that aren’t captured by security cameras. However, all things considered, you’re probably better off keeping this one a fantasy — except for one particular situation.

Safer Alternative: Want to have sex while on the clock while remaining confident you won’t get caught? If you’re a remote worker, you’re in luck. Having a so-called “nooner” — getting laid on your lunch break — is super easy when your office is at home.

Nonetheless, it can still feel risky and frisky, particularly if you let the proceedings spill over past the end of your lunch hour. Luckily for you, your coworkers won’t be able to smell you in a video meeting.

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